Habitually, if we think of the anus in an intimate way at all, we’ll think in terms of something you do, or something that is done to you [often incompetently and painfully] rather than a means of helping you feel, and feel in a very rich way: in terms of sensation, emotion and memory.
One of the innovations of sexological bodywork is working with the anus. And there’s at least 2 very distinct benefits: regulation of the nervous system, and pleasure. I’ll cover these first, and then make some suggestions on why it may be helpful for frequently occurring problems in sexuality, including ‘female sexual dysfunction’ and ‘sexual inexperience’.
For sexological bodyworkers and sex therapists, direct touching of the anal sphincters is one of the few ways to get direct access to the nervous system. And it acts as a major down-regulator (relaxant). If someone is very stressed, relaxation of these sphincters has a major effect on the level of tension they feel in their bodies. Indeed, people very often fall into a deep sleep.
So far as pleasure is concerned, there are a phenomenal amount of nerve endings in the anus. More than almost any other area of the body. Because of this, the anus is an extraordinary landscape of different sensations. Move the finger a tiny amount, and the sensation is entirely different. And it very often comes with a huge and liberating emotional charge too, because it brings back our earliest feelings, which are usually repressed.
So there’s an irony: delicate, thoughtful and minuscule touching around the entrance of the anus is exquisitely pleasurable, and also emotionally very moving. It takes us back to our youngest self. Yet when people think of anal pleasure, they tend to think of anal sex, which often is far from pleasurable, indeed often painful, due to people’s selfishness and ignorance. But I don’t think this is an accident: one of the curses of patriarchy is that it splits our pleasure giving organs artificially into Male and Female. It puts a major block on the development of sexual empathy. And because we all have anuses, our common humanity is kept at bay by thinking of the anus only in terms of penetration, not capacity for feeling, which is at the heart of all of us.
Anal touch bridges what we often feel as the distinction between bodily feelings of sexual arousal and emotional feelings.
There isn’t an expectation or demand about what you should feel. You can just feel whatever is, and that’s critically important, because one of the main sources of dissatisfaction is being drawn out of the present moment by comparison and judgement.
Exploring the Myths and Misconceptions About Anal Pleasure
There are many misconceptions and myths surrounding anal pleasure, especially when it comes to women. One common misconception is that anal play is only for gay men or that it is dirty or painful.
With proper preparation and hygiene, anal play can be clean and painless.
Another myth surrounding anal pleasure is that it is a taboo or shameful act. However, there is nothing inherently wrong or immoral about consensual anal play. It’s important to remember that everyone has different preferences and desires, and what may be enjoyable for one person may not be for another. As long as all parties involved are consenting adults and practicing safe sex, there is no reason to feel ashamed or embarrassed about exploring anal pleasure.
The Benefits of Anal Stimulation for Women’s Sexual Health
Many women report feeling more intense orgasms and heightened sensitivity when their anal area is stimulated. This is because the anus and the surrounding area are rich in nerve endings and blood vessels, making it a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Additionally, anal stimulation can also create a feeling of fullness and pressure that adds to the pleasure.
Anal play can also be a great way to explore your sexuality and try new things with your partner. It can help build trust and intimacy, and lead to a deeper connection and understanding of each other’s bodies.
Post credits: Allo Health Website and Tantric Healing Therapy
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